thisisme,
Continue to stand strong! I know it is difficult and I know that your stomach is probably in knots. Just keep in mind that this holiday you will spend your time with your husband and children and having a wonderful time, free of the abuse from your mother. As for apologizing, please don't apologize for what you share here. Your feelings and thoughts are welcome!
I hope you have a beautiful holiday and that it is filled with love and laughter!