Hello everyone. So, I just found this forum after searching the internet for a few hours trying to find other women out there that don't want children. I really have felt alone in my views on children for a long time. It's got to the point that sometimes I feel that something is wrong with me or that I'm not a "real woman" since I don't want kids.
My husband and I just celebrated our 1 year wedding aniversary this month. Marriage has been great so far. My husband and I have talked about the subject of children many times. He says that it's okay with him if we never have children but, when we first met he said he would probably want children one day. He knew I didn't want children ever. I think he thinks I will change my mind one day (like everyone else thinks). He says that it's never been a dream of his or anything. He actually didn't even want kids at all before. He says since he's getting older it has crossed his mind though. I think he feels like it's just part of life and what is supposed to happen rather than something he really has a desire to do. I don't feel like it will be an issue with our relationship though.
The problem is his family. My husband is hispanic and his family is very traditional. After about 5-6 months of being together his mother started asking me when I'm going to get pregnant. She doesn't speak english very well so I can't explain to her that I don't want kids. It really started to get on my nerves that every time I saw her she would say "Baby, you need baby". So, I asked my husband if he could explain to her that I do not want any children. He said he couldn't because she would get upset.
Just a few days ago my sister-in-law asked when we were gonna start trying for a baby. I told her that I don't want any kids ever. Her and her boyfriend were shocked and they said it's definitely because I'm too young to know what I want and I will change my mind of course. I'm a 22 (23 this year) year old adult, I think I'm old enough to know what I want for my life and what I feel inside. They asked why and I had to try to explain myself of course they didn't understand. Then my sister-in-law said something that was sooo upseting to me, "Oh my God! I can't believe this. Do not tell my mother because [b]all her hopes and dreams will be crushed[/b]!" This was extremely upseting to me!! Out of all the comments I've heard about me not wanting kids this was the most hurtful. I'm really worried about what will happen in the future when I still have not "produced a child for my mother-in-law". I cant't avoid her never ending inquiry. My husband is very close with his family and his mother calls him almost every day to see how he is doing (which is a whole other issue). What am I supposed to do. She overreacts on the smallest things and since this is her "hope and dream" I can't imagine what she will do. She'll probably demand my husband divorce me which he would not do. So I would probably just not be welcome around her. I don't want this to effect me so badly but I don't know what to do. Thanks for any advise.
p.s. sorry for this post being so long.
