I really feel for you. I'm going through a similar situation myself. Notice that I said, "I'm going through...." I met my now ex-husband around 8 years ago. He has 3 children: 119, 18, 16 1/2. I have 4: 16 1/2, 15, 13 1/2 & 10. When I first moved in, my children didn't live with me. So, I used that oppritunity (sp) to prepare for the mixed family & my step parenting his children. I was in college @ the time. My guy's wife left him & their children for someone she met on line. I tried to pick up the pieces. With that in mind, I have tried giving 200% to all the children & him with nothing in return. After we married, we returned home to find that his children were bashing me. That hurt alot, but I kept trying. Then, my children came to live with us. It was early in the marriage that I found that a lot of back stabbing was going on to the point where, my husband's mother was verbally attacking me for setting limits/boundaries, rules, chores, etc. My husband, not helping much really just emotionally abandoned me & my kids. Need I say, I HAD a trust fund. Eventually after his daughter & oldest son had pyhsically asaulted me & his youngest son was abusing my oldest disabled son, I left & divorced him. You know the saying, "once shame on them, twice shame on me." Well, I am the stupid one as I am now engaged again to the same man, with the stipulation that his 2 oldest are pretty much adults & the one that abused my son is not permitted near me or my children. It has been very difficult & emotionally exhausting for me. Now, I find that my soon to be husband is allowing his oldest to live with him rent free, responsible free & broke. When now I am in public housing because HE can not support me or my children. He says he has put a time limit (by my request)for my step son to move out. In the meantime. I have no relationship with his family by their choice as they feel his kids are blameless, innocent and just plain...We helped you when you were younger (to my man) I'm so [censored] @ him, I could just scream! At least I'm trying to take it slow & have initiated my children into private, group and home based counseling. It would be easier for me to walk away, but I do love the man. I get no RESPECT! Help! Help! Help!
