Affairs are sometimes a sympton of what is wrong in a relationship. Once couples can work on why an affair has happened they can then strenghten their relationships. I suspect the reason why so many people end up as the 'mistress' is through low self estemm. Women sometimes do not feal worthy of a full time man and feed off the crumbs offered to them by their lovers!They live in hope their men are going to leave their wifes and remain in a stalemate position their lives on hold waiting. Other women enjoy the power being a mistress gives them- not realising they disempower themselves emotionally. There is no magic wand, to walk away hurts. People have to live with the emotional hurt and work through the pain until it subsides to a point where it has healed in a productive way that leaves them feeling ready to move on with their lives. Hopefully to other loves which are free to fully engage in a relationship
