Thanks Lori, it did take what seems like forever for me to finally get to where I am now. Although I agree that Divineart's situation and mine are different, I do see lots of similarities. Her husband did have an emotional relationship and as far she (Divineart) knows he only had one affair but whos to know if there was more. The saying.. once a cheater always a cheater, doesn't necessarily apply to everyone (in my opinion) but I feel that if it was easy for him to do it once, it may slightly be easier to do it again (despite the heartache that came after) OR in Divine's situation it can be the totally opposite for her husband. Some people learn their lesson very well the first time around and never turn back to their old ways. But that's why you have to work on it and if you feel you want to heal your relationship then do it so that you won't have any regrets and at least you can say you tried on your end. I do support 100% working and saving a marriage.. marriage vows are nothing to be taken lightly and many people throw around the word divorce quite easy when they shouldn't. If you completely feel that you two can get past this but most importantly if you can whole heartedly forgive him then do whatever it takes to save your marriage, as long as he does his part as well.
Divine.. I do wish you the best in your relationship and hope everything works out the way you want it to. But don't just settle be sure that you can fully commit yourself to your husband again after this and forgive him and like Lori said a few comments up.. "it wouldn't be good to give out your forgiveness too early or too easily". It's hard to deal with all this and even harder to forgive but take as long as you need to clear your head and make the correct decisions.
I would love for you to update us on your situation.
