HI, TO JONE 6338,
I think you were refering to what I posted. Well, you mentioned that you took a few months to get to know him before going to bed with him. It takes more than a few months to get to know any person. Whether it is for a relationship, friendship etc. Some home & business transactions take longer periods of time. If you are in it only for sex & you both agree, that is up to you. But most women do not want to be in it just for that. Even if they say so.
Vance & 4Fitness are right. There are many other men who will treat you right. But you have to respect yourself 1st. I know many women who just jump into the sex part very soon. Yes, you are right that a person is showing only their good side. But if you take more time to get to know someone & how they are in differnent situations then you can tell more about how a person really is. Some men will act real nice & good to you at 1st until they get you into bed. Then the magic for them wears off.
Yes, if all he wants is sex from you he should be honest. But many men are not. Not all men. There are many wonderful men out there. But there are many who are like this. Many women will by pass nice men & go for certain types who know just what to say for what they want. I would just learn from this experience. I would not waste any more time on him.
You can't make him care for you & want to be with you. 4Fitness really said alot of good things to you. I seen too many women put up with drama like this. Many of them waste years being used by men who do not care about them at all. All of this time they waste they could be with a good man who treat them like a Queen.
You also mentioned in your 1st post how he tries to blame you for things not working out. Yet he is the 1 who never has time for you. Unless it is for sex. Also Love & sex are 2 different things at times. Some people can have sex without any love feelings. I'm sure that is not what you want. If you keep wasting your time with him you will only continue to hurt yourself. I don't want to hurt your feelings but sometimes people need to hear the truth & not what they want to hear.
If you have any kids & they are adults, would you advise your daughter to keep going to bed with a man who treated her this bad? Good luck to you. Please love & respect yourself 1st. Best Wishes, Judy K. Chicago.
