Ohh, Terrence - Becoming engaged should not feel so dreadful. It should be happy, fun-filled and joy-filled. I can't tell you if it is meant to be or not as a mere forum member who read your posts but what I can tell you is not to ignore the "kid" issue. It is one of the #1 deal-breakers in a serious relationship/marriage. You can't just be a little bit of a prent or a little bit pregnant. It will either be or it won't.

Ignoring it, putting it on the back burner or hoping that the problem will go away is not the adult, preparing for marriage thing to do. If she absolutely wants a child and you absolutely do not, the feeling will not go away. The issue has presented itself NOW for a reason. What happens when you ignore it today, move forward with a marriage and the day arrives when she says "I am ready for that baby now"? Face it today or you will face it tomorrow. Those are the options. Do not convince yourself that you live in a fairy tale kingdom instead of the real world or you will be in for a rude awakening.

My recommendation is to deal with this now and not five years from now or you, your future wife, a step-son and a dog are all in for a bigger heart ache than you are today and an even sadder story...and that is not fair to any of you. Be careful today so that in a few years we won't be reading another one of your posts involving your broken heart, a devastated little boy, an unwanted new child, a depressed dog and a hurt woman who feels that she was mislead by you.

Last edited by jhmd; 04/03/08 01:29 PM.