Over the last two years, I have seen my mother's personality change to the point where she is very sharp now. I am thirty eight, so she's in her seventies. Every time I do something she doesn't agree with, she says so bluntly or tells me I make bad decisions and it puts a lot of stress on her and my dad. The last round of this, I tried standing up for myself, and said "all I hear is what I do wrong" and she promptly turned that back on me, "well, you yell too" (I wasn't at the time). To some extent I can see her point, but this hurts, I feel like I am losing control of my life.
How would you acknowledge that you understand what she's trying to say, without letting it be used to lead you by the nose?
