I divorced after 27 years of marriage and I have now been married 3 years, but not sure this was the right choice. Maybe I should have stayed single longer...I married 2 years after my divorce. I live in a small conservative town and to divorce again would be very difficult for my career and I am not sure it would be for good enough reasons. I thought I knew my husband well and that we felt the same about most things. After we were married I realize he sold himself well. He is not motivated to work hard so we just barely make it finacially (I agreed to a high morgage because I thought he would be contributing an equal amount of money for the payments) and he has no desire to work harder or get a better paying job. My credit is now so bad after paying his debts I don't think I could get another morgage I would have to just find a place to rent. At my age I want to be able to have some spending money, travel and enjoy life. I am a very positive person and think the best of people, he comes home every night complaining about the people he works with/for and the customers. According to him, everyone is stupid, dishonest or someother bad trait except of course him and I. His attitude is so bad I often just disengage and spend my evening in another room. He is a very likeable guy and everyone that meets him likes him right away. He is fun to be with and make me laugh most all the time. He has friends from years ago and makes friends easy so I think he only complains to me. I know I will be just fine without him but I do enjoy his company and my children & grandchildren have a very good relationship with him. I am not even sure if I love him anymore or if I just go through the motions. I have talked to him about these problems and he is great at talking things through but then nothing ever happens to improve. He won't go to counseling, when I suggested we get some counseling saying I don't know if I can continue, he just says 'I don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me, so do what you want'. Right now I can't afford to see someone for counseling anyway.
