Hi Bifumus,
I agree with Pikasam.
My mother has never pressured me about kids - I think she just knew...It's not her style anyway - she has often said that she would never presume to know what's best for other people - she doesn't have all the answers.
My father asked me once - out of the blue - after visiting one of his cousins. This particular cousin is very traditional and raised her daughter's to be wives and mothers. We were standing in the kitchen at my parent's home and my father said, "Why don't you have a couple of kids"....I looked at him and said, "It doesn't really interest us Dad"...He said, "Oh, I see, fair enough"....End of story.
I did not for one moment think, "Oh Gosh, I'd better have a baby for Dad"...
I wasn't raised by my parents "to follow the flock"...they encouraged the qualities that led to independent thought and taking responsibility for your life.
We were raised in a working class suburb with lots of bad influences - we all had the strength to say "No" to drug use, shoplifting and all the other things that were sometimes going on around us.
The thought process is the same - I will lead in life, not follow...
I remember seeing a cartoon many years ago...it was published in a student magazine.
In the first scene a woman in the BACK seat of a car being driven by a person called "Others" - they approach a fork in the road - one way motherhood - the other way "Other things"....the woman screams out, "Hang on, don't I have a say?" as the car is turned toward Motherhood.
In the next caption the woman is DRIVING the car and poised at the intersection. The caption read, "at least this time its my decision - I'm in control"...
