I don't consider myself a Bio Snob because I wanted to have my own child. My story is a little different. I am adopted and I never felt like there was a normal attachment to my adopted family, I always felt like an outsider. In my mid 20s I found my biological family and was never able to form much of an attachment with them either.
I of course had friends who were living with their biological family, looked like their family, had the same tastes, dislikes and so forth like their family. I wanted that in my life. I felt like having my own child was what I wanted. Not that my genes were better then anyone elses but that I wanted that experience.
I think adoption is great and of course not all circumstances are like the one I grew up in. However I do have to say that I think the way adoption is accomplished in the US is crazy, more of a background check into the persons past psychiatric problems should be done, rather then just the ONE consultation they have with a psychiatric professional. My sister who is mad as a hatter was able to adopt two children as infants, they will NEVER have a normal life because they were raised by someone with multiple suicide attempts AND a diagnoses of boarderline personality disorder. Her not being able to conceive might have been FATES way of saying to keep her away from children.
I have heard that one easy and less expensive way to adopt is to become a foster parent and adopt one of the children you care for. I was a private adoption, the doctor who delivered me had placed other children in the town I grew up in and my parents stepped forward saying they wanted to adopt a child and the doctor let them know when I was available.
I can sort of understand the case with Martha Stewarts Daughter, she wanted to have children when she was married, she waited for marriage and perhaps waited too late. I was watching a show where they talked about how much money Martha is worth and I wouldn't worry about the money its costing them to make this baby...their good.
I think its insane to think you can have it all. People who really believe that have no idea what kind of time and energy it takes to be a parent. If your paying someone else to raise your child, then your not "having it all". Of course there are alot of people out there who don't have a choice, the Mothers have to work full time and have someone to care for their kids. Its the ones who have a choice and choose to pawn their children off on others that make me particularly sick. AND to blame someone else that you fell for that lie is also irresonsible.
I don't think the your insurance company should EVER be stuck paying for infertility treatments unless its a physical abnormality that can be corrected with surgery OR an injury that you got from an accident or something along those lines that the insurance covered. Lets say you were covered by your policy and you were stabbed in the street and as a result you can't have children, then I can see the insurance company covering that. Just like your insurance doesn't cover a breast augmentation but if you have breast cancer they will cover to have plastic surgery to make your breast look normal again. The same with dental, if your in an accident and your teeth are knocked out, then your MEDICAL coverage will pay for reconstructive surgery to put them back they way they were.
Doesn't medical insurance cost enough without them paying for IVF and things like that? Thats insanity right there.
