If you are really obsessed with getting your pre-baby figure back, it can be done. I have had 4 children, and, am 58 years old - I don't have any desire to be the person I was or have the body that I had when I was young - I do take good care of myself, however, and make sure that I get some exercise, eat the right things, and I always take care not to "let myself go". That means wearing something other than sweats and flannels, and putting make up on every day. I remarried at 54 yrs of age, and my husband is constantly telling me how great I look. I am not bragging, mind you, but I agree with Suthernbell, it really is more about how you perceive yourself - when pushed into a corner, any man will say that he prefers the body of a 20 yr old to someone older, but few of them actually seek those women out. Instead of obsessing about how you don't look why don't you try working on the very positive things about yourself. I am an Image Consultant, and I urge you to take a new look at yourself, and find the beauty within. There are people out there who can teach you how the inner beauty can be outwardly manifested!
