Also, David, the lucid dreaming is a learning process. It will take some time to be able to control your dreams.
That is why I suggested practicing meditation during your waking hours.
I'm afraid these aren't quick fixes (which I know you desperately want) - but on the other hand, they will be with you for life.
Lauren has also mentioned certain crystals which are helpful with sleeping and dreaming. Here's the link to her article on that:
Top 10 Crystals Pay particular attention to the black tourmaline and lepidolite.
