Great question. I would never have children just because someone else wanted them. Raising kids is very, very challenging. Sure there are rewards along the way but it's hard work. I do not have any birth children. Early in my life I chose not to have them. But in my 40's I met a man who had sole custody of two boys (then 2 and 3 1/2). Long story short, we got married and I had an instant family. The boys' birth mom has nothing to do with them (which I will never understand) so I've always been "mom." I love the boys dearly and I'm very blessed to have them in my life. The problem I'm having is that many times dad has checked out and I feel like I'm a single parent. There was nothing in the fine print about being THE only one with the boys. I love them but sometimes feel a little resentful because my husband is really not an involved parent. I wouldn't change being their mom for anything. I just know this does need to change. My husband does not communicate well at all and talking about things like this is difficult. I'd just like more help. Any ideas?
