I decided to be CF when i realized that i had a choice! it sounds weird but it was when i went to counseling a year and a half ago and the subject of kids came up and my counselor said " you didn't know you had a choice?" no i really didn't. as an only child i was racked with guilt about not wanting children.i knew i didnt' want any but i didnt' know that i could actually choose not to have one and that i didn't have to make my parents happy by having one. i can't tell you how freeing that was to hear. after that i was honest with myself and soon with other people with how i felt. i must admit that i haven't had a heart to heart with my parents but deep down i think they know how my husband and i feel. they havent' bugged us about it in a long time which is good.
i must say that now i really enjoy being CF and all that being CF has to offer. i know that i'm making the right choice for me!
indigo
