Hi Tina. This situation is more precarious than it appears.
We're not so mold-able when we're older. Once we're past our 20's, we know what we like; we know who we are.
You know...I've been "mine-drilling" a pathway from my front door to the kitchen for the past, MONTH maybe, after a trip to see my family out East.
I have to say, as usual - Lori has a lot of abstract (things we might not take the time for...especially these days) levels of relationship "go-aheads" to consider.
Everything is a perception and depending on the person a perspective.
Myself, I'm an almost "huggable" PITA (censored of course). I try anyway.
But what bothers me, with this particular situation "feels" like if you've ever played soft-ball and one comes flying in towards your mid-section.
First, the addiction (not a judgment, but how the term Christianity is now utilized in its place). That's not to say support groups and Christian belief system DON'T help, but this just "feels" off...
As for feeling like (I forget how your words put it) but paraphrasing...love-struck-young-girl.
This is just me. I'm not saying this is HOW it is. I just jump on my instincts. But what comes through, for me, is the "love-struckness" (made up that word, lol) that's felt, well it feels more like a person in your life, that's brought into it, a freedom...wind in the face, a release, etc.
Though there IS that...wait until we're married to have sex thing still out there and I'm not downing it...there's this thing inside that feels almost like "Bait." And for the life of me...can't tell you why.
What else it feels, is there's more in it for this person than you, though it may not feel like it. It feels like this person knows exactly what they're doing.
Nothing wrong w/enjoying each other. That's what dating's all about, but marriage??? I don't know - I have a version that may not even exist anymore.
I'd hold out until I don't have to ask myself, whether or not I want to marry a person or not...just enjoy the ride