Wow..very good article. It seems like a lot of newly marrieds never have important discussions until it is too late...not just about babies, but also finances, where they will live, etc. I lucked out that hubby and I had all of these conversations before we got engaged...but the no babies was a bit uncomfortable.
We had just gone to visit my mom and she had told him the story she tells everyone about how she took away my stuffed animals and gave me a bunch of dolls in a desperate attempt to make me love babies. I had drawn whiskers on them with a permanent marker and announced they were kitties now. As we were driving back to DC, the car was quiet, so hubby (then boyfriend) said "So, you've never wanted kids?" Awkwardly, I mumbled "No, not really." At this point, I was petrified because my hubby is middle eastern and a great emphasis is put on babies in his family. He was quiet, then said "you know, me, either. I always thought I'd want them, or be forced into having them eventually." 6 1/2 years later, we are married and still don't want kids.