Jilly -
We all view the world through the lens of what we believe is right. So if someone was trained from birth to believe that not working was "lazy" or "wrong" then it's hard for them to wrap their mind around a non-worker. To them their view is as natural as breathing. Which is a shame. They have that monocular view of the world and don't even realize that they are only seeing the world in one way.
It's like they see the world only as being blue and don't even realize all the other colors in the world.
I know it's really challenging, but see if you can view those people as having blue sunglasses on and they simply don't even know it. There's no way to point at the blue sunglasses, because they can't see their own eyes. The best you can do is show them through your example that there's another path in life, and maybe that thought will wriggle into their brain and expand it a bit.
I.e. they probably won't be swayed by argument
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You absolutely are doing a lot. Only you can determine what is right for you.
Think of all the people who live at intentional retreats or those sorts of places. They don't crank through building widgets or filling out forms. They simply breathe.
Maybe the smart people are the ones who live a serene life and who radiate that serenity to then have an impact on others.
And finally, the fact that their serenity could be uprooted based on what another human chooses or doesn't choose to do seems to indicate that their own serenity isn't very stable. As you said, why should they care? Why does it matter to them? Why does it damage their serenity to think someone else is relaxing? Does it then make them question their world view, which upsets them?
