Good point, Francine.

We did not always know what we were gleaming from our parents - until later on.

I think the efforts to create a family mission statement - together with your children - may help them realize some of our parental efforts.

Does your family mission statement change when your children are involved in creating it?

Lisa-

Letting the kids help with the Family Mission Statement (ugh), that sounds interesting and yet I am uncertain if I could stand it (lol).

I give so much of me (and maybe they would say I am giving when they are not requiring). So, being able to come back to the mission statement and recognize that I have at least not given in vain makes me feel wonderful.

If I let them help with the mission I would feel like I am really giving the whole kitchen away.

Now that I have said that in my out loud voice, I realize that I should let them hear the mission statement and help tweak it.

Funny thing is, when they were really small we used to agree that my job was simply to keep them safe and let them explore. Wonder what they will think now.

There would probably have to be two versions of the family mission statement

My parents always talked extensively to us kids & answered all of our questions, so that is what I try to employ - taking the time to listen and answer. So hopefully when they get older they will see me as a resource and someone they can talk to. I loath to think of when they are teenagers and shut me out, although I know at some point that will probably happen, but I am trying to foster communication and exploration with them so that at least they will know I am there when needed!

Open communication is probably something most moms wish for.

Good call Carolyn.

Welcome to the Bellaonline family and discussion/forum. I love your input.

Yes! Communication is soooo important.

Listening !

I marvel at my husband - he answers their questions the same way he'd answer it if I was the one asking it - with 'big' words and detailed explanations. I think this shows our children deep Respect ! which is another important component of communication.

Thanks, Carolyn