And the answer is......well, there isn't one, is there !
And how terrifying sometimes. wether it's the kid issue, the marriage issue, family / friends issue...we're all people who change our minds, like / love one minute, then can't stand the next.
It's a minefield out there, and hopefully we're left intact when the varying sized bombs go off, but often not, never to feel the same again.
We've just had our friends 16 yr old twins for a BBQ last week, and ( not being around kids that much ) was amazed at their innocence and complete faith in the future and what it holds.
Do you think there are people out there who find exactly what they want , and gently go through life without the upset, upheaval and heartbreak ? never wondering what if ?
I suspect not, but I don't know. we all lie at times about how great things are, or how bad things are too.
When I was 17 I had a boyfriend who wanted to marry. he was good looking, lovely guy, but I was going to university, and had plans to go abroad. what would have happened if I'd said yes, stayed home, and settled down...
But it's pointless looking back. I suspect heartbreak would have followed too who knows.
The only thing to go on, is if it feels right at the time, then go for it - and when the heartache follows, if in fact it does, then console ourselves that that's what being human is, and we can't avoid it.
Now where's my book on positive thinking....:) ?
