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ok, here's my situation. my girlfriend broke up with me about five months ago because she felt certain things were missing. no problems with drugs, abuse, anything like that. mostly just a lack of deep conversations, getting into a rut, and a lack of emotional support. anyways, over the last few months i've made a lot of changes for myself and she has started to see that these changes are real. however, we're both graduating from college in may and she's planning on going to graduate school which is almost 5 hours away from where we currently are. now if you were her, would you let something like distance get in the way of what could be your one true love? would you be willing to try a long distance relationship if the guy turned out to be everything that you wanted? ofcourse, I would move there in a heart beat to be with her, but other circumstances have come about which might prevent it from happening.

Long distance relationships are very difficult. You need a deep lasting commitment from you and your girlfriend if that has any chance of being successful. Does she desire to get back with you after having broken up with you? You need to assess what the current relationship is between the two of you before worrying about how a long distance relationship will work.

Since you defined the question for us as being with our "one true love" then certainly, we would endure the distance. But you must ask HER if YOU are her one true love.

Also, if you two are true loves, however difficult it might be, you should be able to carry on until she finishes graduate school. My aunt and uncle lived in two different states while going to grad school. They wrote each other everyday during a time when there were no email and cell phones. For four years. They celebrated their 50th anniversary last year.

And even if you have to be separated for a time (and be free to date others), if you are meant to be together, you will be reunited.