Hi-I'm new to the forum and could use some help. My husband's brother hasn't spoken to us since 2001. We used to be very close with him but the 2 of them argued over how to deal with their single mother's money problems, and away he went. Also, his wife is very controlling (she's deaf-don't know how much this has to do with it or not), and always gave him a hard time about seeing us. He moved out of state and we were forbidden access to any of his information-address, phone number, etc., from the other family members, including his mother. We have since apologized for our part in all of this and have made it clear to him that we want him back in our lives but to no avail. We're not perfect, but neither is he. What bothers me is that he has never acknowledged any fault on his part-it's all on us, and some other family members have also sided with him. It's created a strained, difficult extended family relationship, one that my husband is ready to ditch any minute. I, however, don't want to lose any more family members, no matter how difficult they are. We have 2 daughters who don't know their uncle. What to do?!