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many of us play the game- I am a failure!
Give them any advice or tips, they always fail.
How to coach them?

I used to do this.
One day I broke the pattern.

I've found that truth is a very powerful weapon in shattering lies (because the truth is we ALL have great value and none of us is a failure!).

I let them know "I" believe in them and that they are NOT a failure. True success is about being ourselves and not comparing ourselves with others.

How can you truly fail at being yourself?

We then plan a success map that focuses on "succeeding at being yourself". We look at their specific gifts and abilities and true DESIRES and invite them forward.

I've seen incredible people suddenly "wake up" and realize they only need to be the great person who already resides within them.

I wrote an article for my Success Tips for Women that someone here might find helpful. Here it is:

What if you couldn't fail?

What if your only true failure lies in not being all of who you already are? This would mean that if you allowed all of your true self, your true talents and your true desires to come forward...there would be no failure at being you. The only crime would be in failing to recognize your own greatness.

So much energy is wasted when we try to be like someone else or when we try to measure up to society's presentation of success. What if you are simply meant to be you? You are unique with a light that is meant to shine and fill a very important place in this world. Your importance and purpose is priceless - there is no other you.

Whatever you've truly hoped to be, you already are. You just need to believe it and embrace all of who you are. You are beautiful; full of value, talent and mystery. You have great passion and purpose...you only need to discover it and live fully alive as your authentic self.

I invite you to stop striving to be someone you are not and embrace the greatness you ALREADY are. There is no failure in being fully you.

Copyright 2006 Tami M. Szabo

I fail myself in so many ways

I understand how you feel, Rosie.

This is a complex many people have. They refuse to succeed.

is it really refusal, or is it just hard?

i know for me, sometimes it feels like finding my way out of a maze. Only mazes are easier.

i'd rather have easier answers. I just find that sometimes my behavior even mystifies me. i don't do what i intend.

It is refusal Holly.
It is refusal to accept that we can be success. Why? I think childhood training, experiences and so on.

I think of refusal as being when a person doesn't want to. I know i want to. I see a lot of people struggle and i believe that most of them want to.

In me, i have trouble believing, and i have fear.

In someone else i can think of (not someone on the forum), i would say they have some unrealistic ideas that get in the way.

Sometimes there is an unwillingness to make the compromises necessary.

I think there are different situations. But to call it refusal ...i see people suffering. I have a hard time calling it refusal when i see people suffering.