Holly has talked about robbins saying that we get motivated by either-
Going away from pain or pleasure?
I get motivated by going away from pain. Pleasure is OK for me but running away from pain makes me do many things. How about others?
To some degree i get motivated by both, however i am much better motivated by experiencing pleasure. I will move towards pleasure like a plant will bend towards light. If i have pleasure, i will want more. But if i am not currently experiencing it... sometimes it seems remote and i might doubt i can attain it.
Most people will move away from pain, but i will not always move away from a painful state... sometimes i will just shut down and get stuck in it, so for me, pain is like glue or molassas. It can hinder me, rather than motivate me.
I think we are confusing now.
You said that you are a carrot donkey. So now rather than going back to that , let us find out how this helps you. Have you begun visualizing in terms of pleasure?
I have, and will continue. But it is not quite simple, for visualizing positively and feeling hope these days can often trigger in me a lot of insecurity and the return of memories of loss and pain. I hope this kind of reaction will wear off the more i practice visualization and hope, but at present i am proceding carefully. A couple of weeks ago i hit a rough spot, and it was because of reacting to having more hope. When i hope i fear i might encounter the same kind of loss i had the last time i had much to hope for. This is what i was trying to explain.
i will continue with visualization... but hoping for a carrot does not mean i will have a carrot. Tasting a little carrot, works even better.
So how this knowledge helps me... I am working on improving my
enjoyment of the activities that will help me to be more successful. This isn't so much visualization as a matter of shifting my focus and attitudes and enjoying what i need to do, and doing more of what i enjoy. The stick... in being healthy, for instance... might be looking in a mirror and feeling unattractive and criticizing myself. This doesn't work well to motivate me, it just dispirits me. The carrot... would be trying to improve my enjoyment of the actual exercise... perhaps by adding music or just thinking how it makes my body feel good and stronger... and perhaps buying a new outfit when i have reached a goal of say, exercising for a month.
I have also learned to be more careful to limit my exposure to people who use sticks more often than carrots. This has helped.
What about you, Pratibha? AF? Everyone? How can you work more carrots into your life and fewer sticks?