What if the wounds were humiliating to begin with?
One thing i thank my mother for, is that she showed me how she respected all human beings, no matter what their condition... if they were poor, ignorant, ill, alcoholic, old, dirty, infirmed, silly, ...anything. She would give them as much respect as anyone else. I have tears in my eyes thinking of it. She knew how to see the real value of human beings... in all human beings... that we are all worthy of respect no matter what our state. I hope some day i am that good to people.
Humilation is a hard emotion...
but usually when we find ourselves in such conditions, it isn't something we chose to happen, is it?
Your circumstances or past circumstances do not reflect your value or dignity as a person, or the respect to which you are entitled.
I just looked up the words humiliation, humility and humble in my dictionary and it is very interesting... i will highlight the part i found most interesting:
humiliate - to hurt the pride or dignity of by causing to be or seem foolish or contemptible; mortify.
SYN. see degrade.
humility - the state or quality of being humble; absence of pride or self-assertion.
humble: in a favorable sense, suggests an unassuming character in which there is an absence of pride and assertiveness (a
humble genius)
and, unfavorably, connotes an almost abject lack of self-respect....so what i am seeing in this is when we feel humilated, in spite of not being given due respect by others and perhaps more because of it, we should seek to give respect to ourselves and feel respect for ourselves and our inherent dignity that is beyond our circumstances.
Easier said than done, i know.