...Speaking of venting.... I was actually going to start a thread on something I feel like venting about! But I'll just do it here.
I recently got in touch with an old childhood friend and we've been sending eachother messages online.
She's done soo much with her life over the last 13 years or so. She's done a huge amount of travelling and gone to university and made so many friends around the world etc. And I was feeling a little like wow, I havent really done anything huge in my life thus far! And then these last 2 messages we sent eachother went like this...
I said: "yeah my brother is doing great! Him and his gf had a beautiful baby boy back in October last year
My parents arent together now, but are still friends, and I got married almost a year ago. I plan on going back to school next year etc...."
She replied by saying: "wow a lot of excitement. my siblings and I are still living up our youth... you know, no "serious" things yet like babies or marriage"
The sentence that rubbed me the wrong way was "My siblings and I are still living up our youth"....like, what the hell is that supposed to mean?!
I know she probably didn't mean it the way I took it, but I absolutely HATE it when people imply that just because someone is married when they are young doesn't mean they can't have fun just like single people! It's something that really really irritates me!!! My husband and I are still young and we have plenty of fun! We still go to the bar (usually just for everyones birthdays-just because its soo freakin expensive!), we still have parties, and our lives aren't super serious. We goof around and have sooo much fun together AND with friends.
I've heard comments from people (people I used to be friends with, strangers and people I know but wasn't really friends with) about how they could never imagine being married so young because they like to have fun. Or, well he or she is married so they probably dont want to come out tonight. Or, married people are boring.
That really pisses me off! That is so unfair and 100% not true! Im sorry, but my relationship status has nothing to do with my friendships and my level of fun. The only difference between us as a married young couple, and young single people is that we have someone other than ourselves to consider at the end of the day. If I decide to go to the bar for the night without hubby, he's fine with that as long as he knows when Im gonna be home. And the same with him. When he goes out without me he lets me know when he's gonna be home so I dont worry. That, and we aren't out hitting on other people lol... So that's what alot of single people do at the bar, but many people just go with their friends to have fun rather than trying to meet single people.
I duno... its just annoying to be stereotyped as old and boring just because I have someone who loves and respects me and visa versa.