I know this is a Woman's board.. However I find your advice very helpful and fulfilling.
Anyhow.
My girlfriend, Aubrey, and I have been facing more arguments lately than we have stomachs for. Reason? I believe it to be our insecurity in ourselves, and the distance between us.
Shes a very self conscience person, and every day I hold that in my heart when we talk, and I try and make her feel beautiful even in words. I myself, dont see the qualities within, that she sees, or the worth, rather, how priceless I am to her. Therefore, she feels threatened when Im out and about, thinking I may be with another girl, and I, myself, am afraid when she talks to other guys from the net, guys that are years older than her and such.. As I said befor.. But repeating for those who do not know this, she is naive in the sense that she only sees good within people. Its a great quality under certain circumstances, however it scares the [censored] out of me when she'll just go meet up with some one she has never met outside of the internet..
She says she doesnt have many friends, and those she does have are influenced by drinking "as are my friends" and I also get upset when she goes out because shes drank under promise not to before.. So we pull up things from the past.. Such as that instance, and an instance with me when I said "I love you" to a close friend of mine. She had gotten upset because of that due to the fact that she holds the words very sacred and would never say this to anyone other than myself or family.. I understand that now, and no longer break that but still she brings it up..
I dont know, what is the best way to get around the fear of her hanging out with older men, and people who are bad influences, and how do I show her she will never have to deal with things that she had been upset about in the past?
How can I decrease these arguments.. Because I really want her to be happy. I want the best for her. And I also want nights where I can be at home when shes out and feel at ease, happy myself.
