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Laura, calling your mother is the best news yet since you decided to get treatment. I suspect she was not only surprised, but thrilled to hear from you. Mothers are like that, especially at Christmas.
What huge strides you are making. Be proud of yourself. Really. And thanks for keeping us posted.

hugs from here,
Jan

What Jan said! I can't add a thing, even though I wish I could.

Laura, you're doing great. Keep us posted - even if there's nothing exciting happening! No news can be good news :-)

I'm so glad you called your Mum, as it really sounds like your falling out with your family was not due to problems between you and them, but because of a third party. It's a good time to start over fresh and new. All the best <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hello All,

Yes, it was good to talk to my mum. I actually found a chrissy present from her sitting on my front doorstep when I got home today. I do not know how long it has been there for, but it was a nice surprise.

I am sorry that I did not get to reply on tuesday, but someone from the hospital, a nurse who works in the ward that I am in, completely unknown to me - goes to the same gym that I do. She spotted me working flat out and dobbed me in. Well, I am guessing it was her. I spotted her at the gym. Someone else also spotted me running around the hospital grounds and apparently, I was pacing up and down the halls - that was their words.

The only exercise that I am allowed to do is supervised and moderated.

I do not understand what the problem is though. I continue to gain weight so it should not be too much of an issue.

So now they do not trust me anymore and they have taken a lot of my priviliges away. I am only allowed out of my room supervised and I am only allowed one day during the week to go out instead of two.

So I think that it is now time for me to start to trick the scales to get me out of there a lot faster. I have thought of several ways to do this. I put off doing it because I thought they might get suspicious and take away a lot of my priviliges but now I have nothing to lose, so it does not matter anyway. It seemed to work. Yesterday when I was weighed, I was 43 Kilos. If I can keep this up, I'm guessing that I will be out of there in two weeks. I can't wait.

Well, that is me for the moment. Seeing that I am hoping to be out of hospital in two weeks, I am going to go job hunting today. I have just spent this morning typing up my resume. I am so looking forward to going back to a normal lifestyle.

Now, don't worry. I'm not returning back to my old lifestyle. I am still eating. I am learning a lot. I just felt like a workout. That is all. It is hard when you are stuck in a room for most of the day and hardly get out.

Well, that's my life for now.

You won't hear from me for a whole week now.

Thanks for your support. You people are great.

Laura

Glad to see you on a day pass, Laura. Don't be using all those brains to out maneuver those poor folks at the hospital. Maybe doing some yoga or that sort of outside play would keep them happy and earn you your privileges back? Play by their rules and you will get out healthy, happy and with a new way to live your life.
How nice to see a gift from your mother. Musta felt pretty good, yes?
Glad you stopped by for a quick hello. Take good care until next time.

I stumbled on this thread by 'accident'. And I learn so much just by reading all the posts.

It must be a extremely tough journey (though it's only 1.5 mths) for a young lady to take.
I really salute you for all that you have gone through.

It a wonderful gift (this thread) for me, as it makes me reflect on my life, as the year is coming to an end too.

Looking forward to your updates in 2007.
May you have a fantastic 2007 <img src="/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I guess help is available everywhere.
The toughest challenge is really to ask for help and be willing to accept the help that is given to us.

Laura, I'm glad you did and also given me a chance to learn so much. You are a brave soldier.

Oh that's sweet - I'm sure your mum's present lifted your spirits. You are a few steps closer to bridging that gap in your family. You're doing so well.

I agree with Jan - try not to take it personally that the hospital don't allow you to do the things you find you want to do. They have their reasons - it may be that they believe your body is not strong enough yet to handle heavy, unsupervised exercise. You did say your bone density was similar to that of a 60-year-old: you have to start slowly with reintroducing exercise, otherwise you could hurt yourself. Believe it or not, they're not doing this to punish you or make you feel worse. Talk to them about it and find out what kind of exercise they recommend you start with. Tell them that you now have this extra energy and want to move around, that it's not because you're trying to shift your weight. Feeling energetic is a good thing, it means your body is getting the nutrients it needs. But remember, you need those nutrients and that energy to heal the damage you've done first.

Happy New Year, and happy new you, Laura! <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

What a great time to be starting a new life! A new year, new job, and new way of looking at your self and life.

I hope you get released from the hospital soon, and find a job you love. Listen to the staff, though - they may be a little more objective right now, and do have your best interests at heart.

How did this past week go?

Good Morning All

This last week was interesting. I seem to be getting closer and closer to going home. When I was weighed this week I was 36 kilos. The doctor took one look at me and raised his eyebrows and said that is a lot of weight to gain in just one week. I just shrugged my shoulders and said I don�t know why I have gained that much. He did say however, that I have made excellent progress and am recovering well.

I sort of felt a bit funny afterwards because I sort of did trick the scales. It is so weird. At one moment I want to get out of the hospital as fast as I can. Now, I am kinda scared to leave. I am just not sure that I can handle it without the constant care and protection from the hospital staff. I am terrified that as soon as I get home that I will revert back to my old ways. I will see everything at home as it always was and that will trigger me off. June has been trying to prepare me for leaving the hospital but I really don�t know that I am ready. She has given me a lot to think about and do. I have also been learning new coping strategies.

We have come up with an idea that hopefully will work. I am going to re-decorate my flat. I have started a new life and I do not want anything from my old life to trigger me. So today I am cleaning out my flat of all the things in my past that I do not want to take with me in my new life, so that when I do come back permanently I do not have them here. A completely new look is going to help as well.

I have just bought a sewing machine and am planning, when I get out of hospital, to sew new placemats, cushion covers, lounge covers and curtains to begin with.

I am going to make myself a �recovery quilt� � this will be bright and cheery and happy � I have just spent this morning picking out a whole heap of different materials so I can start it now while I am in hospital.

I have taken down all the pictures that I have had and am replacing them. I am buying a new dinner set and new cookware. This is to help me to learn to enjoy food. I have a small vegetable garden in styrofoam boxes that I am going to expand and add a lot of different vegetables that I would not have eaten before. I want to also add a little water feature inside. That would just be nice I think.

I am really looking forward to getting into it all. I have been told that I really should not go back to work too soon. I really wanted to go back to work and last week I spent some time trying to find work. But, I have been warned that if I rush into things too quickly my body probably would not be able to handle it. I need to have time to adjust to my new lifestyle. As much as I don�t like this I have to do it if I want to return to good health. It�s ok. My once healthy savings account will continue to dwindle down, especially now that I am redecorating. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So, as you can see, I am going to be so busy that I won�t have time to get into mischief or back into my old way of thinking. That is the idea anyway. I�m still somewhat scared that I will return. I have been told that most people relapse. I need to do all I can to ensure that this doesn�t happen.

Well I hope I haven�t bored you with all my projects. I may be out next week. The doctor was not sure whether he wanted to keep me in for an extra week or so just to check that I would maintain the weight. Time will tell.

It is good to talk to you. I do enjoy coming on here.

Jan, it felt fantastic to receive a present from my mother. And thankyou for your thoughtfulness and wonderful replies.

Miracle, thankyou for your sweet reply. I am glad that through my experience you are learning something. It makes me feel like all my efforts aren't in vain.

Elle, you are just wonderful. I love hearing from you. Thanks for your support.

Laurie, i'm getting there. Thankyou for being an anchor. I look back on what I have written and I can't believe how far I have come. I have learnt a lot by reading back at what everyone and myself has written. I know that I CAN do this. I CAN get through this. Life CAN be happy and cheerful and good.

Everyone else - thanks a million

Well that's me for this week.

Until Next Time

Laura