Sorry my friend, but at 13, you WERE A CHILD and at 19-20k your abuser WAS AN ADULT!
She took advantage of you, whether you accept that or not.
Yep she took advantage of a situation & it was very unethical thing for her to do. It was wrong based on that. I wouldn't go as far to say it was abuse because I still was able to function mentally, physically & emotionally in my life since then. Just because she was older & I was a minor makes no difference to me. I still was able to continue to have a social life, hae relationships play sports, do good in school, eventually go to college, graduate, have work ethic, get a good job etc. All because I refused to let others convince me that I was victimized or abuse. It was sex & if it didn't happen with her, it would of happen soon after with someone else anyways. In my opinion better with her than with someone who was inexperienced & frigid.
Yeah, I remember back in the days of high school, there were a few girls dating older guys. They would pick them up after school in there cars & us teenage guys would get jealous because we really couldn't compete with that. <img src="/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I made that point in 1 of my post about some teenage girls are matured above & beyond wanting to deal with the guys are their age. Most guys in their teens act more predatory & abusive than older guys, so I don't blame a girl for wanting to date an older guy sometimes. It still wouldn't hurt to question the intentions but never assuming that they are automatically predatory or perverse.
When I was that age, I didn't want to date the girls that age because they were so much about drama & playing games. I didn't want any part of that. So I landed up either staying single more often than others or dating older woman.
When I was 17 I date a 32 yr old woman & even thought that didn't last either, it still was a great experience that I won't forget.
Now I'm 32 & I typically date women that are around my age only because it's just what happens. I did date a 19 yr old when I was 30 for about 6 mths or so & she was pretty cool. She was very responsible & mature for her age.
I don't mind dating someone that young but at this point they have to be self-sufficient (not living with parents)
& either going to college or working or both. I wouldn't date a 16 yr old because more than likely she wouldn't be in that place in her life & therefore wouldn't be on equal playing field. Still just because I have my rules fdor that & wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that others in that situation are necessarily doing something wrong.
