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hey! I had pet RATS and they were clean, smart, well behaved and very trainable. they were good pets and do not deserve to be used as negative icons for human children!

Yes, I like kids. Does that mean I want my own? Probably not. It's not raising the children that bothers me, but it's what they do to your lifestlye that is so unappealing to me. Constant crying, sleepless nights, financial strain, forget romance with your partner because there is no time and energy anymore. Not to mention giving birth (ouch!! I can't imagine) and hey, I work primarily with men and haven't heard them speak too highly of their wives after they give birth. (Sad but true!!) It seems like thier opinions of thier partner changes. You are no longer the sexy, powerful and independent woman he fell in love with, suddenly you are just "mom". You would think you would be more poweful after GIVING LIFE!!! Ummm....hellooooooo!!! But unfortunately, not what I've heard. I don't want my world to revolve around children and thats what happens to people time and time again. Not cool!! And men are sometimes scarred mentally by being the witness to birth weather they admit it or not. Hell, I'm scarred by it and I'm a woman!! Not wanting to have sex after what they have seen!! Oh my god, thats an awful thought. I'm still undecided about being CF, but I don't think I want kids, not because I don't like them, but for all these other reasons. It's just hard when you are in love with someone who does want children....desperately.

you can give life (mother) without giving birth (being a mother).

I like kids. I like their original minds that have not been filed down and conditioned by society's institutions.
I do not have any desire to bring one into this world and attempt to raise him or her into a well adjusted, and happy citizen for the next 18 or so years of my life.
My father used to say, "A child is an apprentice person." It was not something I did not enjoyed hearing from him and yet, with each passing year, I am forced to see the reality of this remark.

thinker: if you no desire to feed and train em don't breed em

I like my nieces and nephews - but then again - I have never been in a restaurant with them...have never been shopping with them....and don't have to live near them!!! Perhaps my opinion would be different if I had to do any of the above??? LOL!! We like to see them when we visit - but it will be nice when they are adults. As for all kids - honestly - I'd rather them be seen and not heard. I'd much rather meet someone's dog!!!

I can barely put up with 'em, but they're okay, except when they're screeching, yelling, throwing tantrums and being COMPLETE BRATS. I just wish not to have any of my own.

Last year sometime I posted on this thread that I like kids...work in education etc. I have found that over time I am becoming more and more intolerant of their bratty behavior. My husband and I are already considering moving to another neighborhood that has less children because of the problems caused by the kids on our block (throwing rocks into our yard at the bus stop, teasing our dogs, leaving trash in the road, playing on the street, incessantly knocking on our door to sell us something we don't need or want) And this morning a co-worker (happens to be bosses daughter) brings her two children in and lets them wander the buidling unsupervised for an HOUR!!! How is anybody supposed to work around here?! Anyway-I'm just venting...don't mind me :-)

Question: Do you like kids?

Answer: In a word, no.

I have very strict conditions which must be met for me to like kids. They should be quiet except for great conversation, very very clean, careful and not accident prone. They can't be whiny, and they shouldn't be hyper. They should have a good long attention span. They shouldn't be lazy or antisocial. They shouldn't be overly social either. They should be very helpful, people-pleasing sort of people, always asking what they can do for others. They should be as independent as possible for their age; clingy children bother me. They should be well-versed in all manner of etiquette; they should be polite to everyone they meet.

The problem here is that there are tons of adults who can't meet these conditions, so children aren't going to meet the conditions either.

Now, if by "do you like kids" you mean "do you like baby goats," well yes I do...because the farmer can't very well take the baby goat to the restaurants, shops and movies. Actually, I've met some goats that were much more mild-mannered than your average human child...but I digress. I'm sure that the goat topic belongs on another forum somewhere... <img src="/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Meh. I like some of them. I can tolerate others. I can't stand many. Really, the same as I feel for adults. The only difference is that the kids are usually less able to control themselves and act like human beings and so there are more of them that I dislike (unless you add frat boys into the adult roster, then it comes out about even).

It is, of course, fun to bash them, and this leads my mother, for example, to think I hate them, but I keep pointing out to her that there are a lot of types of people I dislike among adults as well.

I don't like stupid, annoying, jerky people, period. Kids fall into this category as much as anyone else does.