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I had previously posted this on the marriage forum until I found this forum, and advice would be greatly appreciated...Hi I'm new to this forum and I didn't see one on relationships so I decided to ask advice from the married side. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and I am 29 yrs old. I have been dating my b-friend for 3 yrs. The problem is that he is 22 will be 23 this year anyway I am currently 7 months pregnant and these last couple of weeks he has turned into a complete jerk!!! He has been mean to me, has even moved out of my house and he said some very mean things to him and I reacted by slapping him and he has told me not to call him anymore which is fine, I told him he needed to grow up and learn how to be a man instead of acting like a child. It hurts me because now that I'm in the last couple of weeks of my pregnancy I am so lonely and sad and emotional and now is the time when I need him the most. It hurts me to think that after all these years and now his 1st child being on the way he can act like this? Why????? The other deal is my family, my uncle butted into one of our arguements by telling him that if anything happened to me while I was pregnant that he was going to beat him up so now my b-friend doesn't want to come back to my house until my uncle leaves, go figure. I'm his so called 1st true love and after 3 yrs now that I'm ready to have his child he decides to act this way, I'm confused, I need advice and since I've never dealt with anyone so young what are the chances that he'll come around?

I don't know the entire story, and something like this is hard to respond to because chances are the wrong thing will be said or misunderstood. I am just goint to say what I wish somebody had told my mother so I didn't have to live her drama that she describes now as "my life was just so hard I didn't have time to think of anything other than myself, I don't know how to explain it, I wish you could understand". Silly me, I was just trying to be a kid!

Sounds like anger is an issue and possible abuse. Age is not the issue, that is a cop out.

Maturity is the issue.

A child needs love, and at least one responsible adult teaching them to laugh, love and grow into a happy healthy adult themselves.

Exposed to what is described above is something no child should live with.

I mean this in the nicest way, the grown ups needs to grow up and if they cannot they need to step back and let the ones who will take charge.

You do not need him to come around if you are willing to take the steps needed to be a responsible mother. You cannot make him come around. Focus on your child, not him. Again, don't mean to sound harsh, I've just been "that child". It sucks.

AM~

That is a really tough situation. I think that skinnydipr makes a great point - you both need to think about your child. He may not be mature enough to handle the relationship between you two but he NEEDS to grow up and become a father. I think you should just calmly sit down with him and discuss the role he will have in this baby's life, assuming you two are not together.