Bonna,
You can read the articles here and decide for yourself. Proselytizing, trying to convert someone else to your faith, is not a part of paganism.
Pagans try to cultivate a respect for all forms of life. Wicca, one of the major pagan religions, maintains the Law of Three as one of the major tenents: the belief that whatever energy you put out into the world will return to you threefold.
Neo-paganism tends to refer to spiritual practices that are not an exact decendant of a specific practice. I identify as a neo-pagan in that I am an eclectic, one who practices their faith in a solitary fashion as opposed to as part of a formal group.
In exploring your spiritual side, you have to decide what you are seeking. When I was in college, I felt that the spirituality that I had been raised with didn't feel like the person I was inside. I too have felt conflict with the outside world and its beliefs in my life. I read a lot, as I didn't like how many spiritualities tried to "grab" you and make you one of theirs if you went speak to someone. I thought about what was important to me, and read about various faiths until I found descriptions of beliefs that matched my own feelings.
Can you be more specific about this concept of "honesty" that you are seeking?