I'm gonna tell you a little story. It's relevent.
I've had my ups and downs with Christianity. It was during one of my down trips, at the time I was into Wiccan. My sister had come to the Christian religion. She then lead a few others into the church. Evenutally my own husband. Boy when he told me he was going to Church I was laughing my durn head off. I told him how stupid he was to follow the flock. *shake head*
A few weeks later he asked me as his wife to attend his baptism which was important to him, and me being a live and let live kinda girl I went.
After the ceremony we had prayer services, a few of husband's church friends say can we please pray with you. I said sure why not, NEVER ever hurt anyone's feelings if you can avoid it.
After that moment I changed in GREAT ways, small ways. Many ways. But the people around me did not. Nor could they see the changes.
I left the church because I couldn't put up with the infighting, the selfishness, the constant pointing out others wrongs and blithely ignoring thier own.
Being an outsider, with very interesting ideas, I got picked on alot. I was always being told how WRONG my beliefs were, even though I could "prove" them in the bible.
I was even "prayed" over that my stupidity and blindness would leave me and I could "read" what the bible meant.
Well religion, can kiss my bliss. God, Jesus and I are living happily ever after. In MY way. I do NOT need some formal institue to tell me I'm right or wrong, I get enough of that in my government.
The church is for support, mental, spiritual, physical, it's a place where friends should be able to go and be "family".
It's not a place to go and get lessons in Self hatred.
I've been an avid bible reader/studier my whole life, I always loved the stories. Imagining the people and places. The one thing I've noticed about the bible is it's theme. The 10 commandments can basically be said in one sentance. Love one another in forgivness and tolerance.
You love God you don't go worshiping another one. You love your friend you don't go stealing from them. You love your spouse you don't go cheating on them. You love someone you don't go feeling sorry because they have something you want. You love someone you don't go telling lies that end them up in prision.
See what I'm saying?