Are you a chronic people-pleaser who is beginning to feel overwhelmed? Please check out my article for some tips on how to climb out of that hole, and let me know what you think!

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I think I have the opposite problem - I say no too often and have to let YES into my life!

Years ago I read a little book called "When I say No I Feel Guilty" that gave some of the same tips as your article. I am a person who can say no but then I feel guilty and second guess myself.

I think we all have to set boundaries and then stick to those. Decided what we will and won't do for others. I babysit some for my stepdaughter so she doesn't have to pay for daycare but I set limits on it. Otherwise, I'd be overwhelmed and angry. For my own sake, I have to set limits and know just what I'm willing to contribute to the daycare effort before it gets to be a burden.

I guess my tip would be to consider ahead of time what you will or won't do and then stick to it. That gives you a chance to know within yourself just why you are saying yes or no. It keeps you from being overwhelmed by over committing yourself.

I agree, Joan! That is hard for me too sometimes... I sometimes tell myself I'll say no when the question comes and end up saying yes, so I had to work on that!