Need help to understand - 09/20/08 02:32 PM
Good morning,
I have been dating a wonderful divorced man with 3 young boys for 9months now. He has been divorced(final)1yr...left in April 2007. He has his boys every Monday, every Thursday evening, every Sunday night, and every other weekend. I have never been married and do not have any children. We live together and recently made a room for the boys. I love them all and they all love me back.
MY PROBLEM: I have come to the hard realization that his ex-wife will always control my life in some way. For me, that is a hard pill to swallow, seeing how I know I am somewhat of a controlling person. I like control of my life and what happens to it. I want to be more tolerant of their relationship and understand it but I don't think I ever will. I am not jealous of her or think either wants to be back together. I have discussed and cried about this with my bf last night and want to know what I can do to help myself.
Please, any advice from someone going through this will be appreciated. Thank you.
I have been dating a wonderful divorced man with 3 young boys for 9months now. He has been divorced(final)1yr...left in April 2007. He has his boys every Monday, every Thursday evening, every Sunday night, and every other weekend. I have never been married and do not have any children. We live together and recently made a room for the boys. I love them all and they all love me back.
MY PROBLEM: I have come to the hard realization that his ex-wife will always control my life in some way. For me, that is a hard pill to swallow, seeing how I know I am somewhat of a controlling person. I like control of my life and what happens to it. I want to be more tolerant of their relationship and understand it but I don't think I ever will. I am not jealous of her or think either wants to be back together. I have discussed and cried about this with my bf last night and want to know what I can do to help myself.
Please, any advice from someone going through this will be appreciated. Thank you.