is a delayed period after a miscarriage typical? - 11/13/07 06:07 AM
I recently miscarried my first pregnancy (ironically enough on october 15th, a date i have just learned is the memorial day for miscarriages...) and I am wondering if it is normal for my period to be delayed or to possibly skip one.
This site has been a wonderful help for me. Until I found an article here, I had not been able to put into words the pain and sadness I have felt. My husband and I had only been married a month when I found out that I was pregnant. We had only a few days to celebrate until I started bleeding. I felt like no one understood my emotions. My husband was a wonderful support for me - he didnt try to blame me or say "better luck next time" he just silently and gently consolled me as I grieved. It seemed like I could not stop crying no matter what.. I have never been so sad in all my life. But when I told my mother, she said "well you shouldnt let your husband drink alchohol when you might be getting pregnant." and then she made a comment about how I must not have been eating enough folic acid. And that it was for the best because of our finances. And this way I will get to enjoy our newly wed years. I would have enjoyed my baby!! None of this was my fault - in all likelyhood it was a simple chromosome imbalance. Doomed from conception.
The worst was when my brother in laws girlfriend (who had just weeks before voluntarily aborted a healthy ten week old pregnancy) said "I know how you feel." I couldnt believe it! How can someone who willingly killed their baby understand how I feel when I have been robbed of mine. When my neighbor found out she said "oh well you should have gone to the doctor as soon as you saw blood - they couldve prevented it." No they couldnt have. It isnt possible. What a cruel thing to say.
I loved the little guy even though he (or she) was just a little glob of cells. He was my little lima bean. I talked to him at night and thought about all the fun adventures we were going to have together. I know my pregnancy didnt last long and Im sure its nothing like the pain of losing a more advanced pregnancy, but it was a horrific trial for my husband and I from an emotional perspective. People need to understand that a miscarriage is not just "whoops, try again next month!" It is losing a baby that for however long, even just a few days or weeks, was precious and loved and it's an experience that changes you. I felt like all the joy and wonder had been removed from the concept of pregnancy. Despite favorable statistics, I worry about my next pregnancy and will my body reject that one too? Miscarriage made me feel like a defective woman and although it doesnt hurt nearly as much now as it did a few weeks ago, I know I will always wonder what this little baby could have been like.
Sorry but it feels good to get this out of my head. Anyways, back to the topic - Is it typical to have a delayed period after a miscarriage?
This site has been a wonderful help for me. Until I found an article here, I had not been able to put into words the pain and sadness I have felt. My husband and I had only been married a month when I found out that I was pregnant. We had only a few days to celebrate until I started bleeding. I felt like no one understood my emotions. My husband was a wonderful support for me - he didnt try to blame me or say "better luck next time" he just silently and gently consolled me as I grieved. It seemed like I could not stop crying no matter what.. I have never been so sad in all my life. But when I told my mother, she said "well you shouldnt let your husband drink alchohol when you might be getting pregnant." and then she made a comment about how I must not have been eating enough folic acid. And that it was for the best because of our finances. And this way I will get to enjoy our newly wed years. I would have enjoyed my baby!! None of this was my fault - in all likelyhood it was a simple chromosome imbalance. Doomed from conception.
The worst was when my brother in laws girlfriend (who had just weeks before voluntarily aborted a healthy ten week old pregnancy) said "I know how you feel." I couldnt believe it! How can someone who willingly killed their baby understand how I feel when I have been robbed of mine. When my neighbor found out she said "oh well you should have gone to the doctor as soon as you saw blood - they couldve prevented it." No they couldnt have. It isnt possible. What a cruel thing to say.
I loved the little guy even though he (or she) was just a little glob of cells. He was my little lima bean. I talked to him at night and thought about all the fun adventures we were going to have together. I know my pregnancy didnt last long and Im sure its nothing like the pain of losing a more advanced pregnancy, but it was a horrific trial for my husband and I from an emotional perspective. People need to understand that a miscarriage is not just "whoops, try again next month!" It is losing a baby that for however long, even just a few days or weeks, was precious and loved and it's an experience that changes you. I felt like all the joy and wonder had been removed from the concept of pregnancy. Despite favorable statistics, I worry about my next pregnancy and will my body reject that one too? Miscarriage made me feel like a defective woman and although it doesnt hurt nearly as much now as it did a few weeks ago, I know I will always wonder what this little baby could have been like.
Sorry but it feels good to get this out of my head. Anyways, back to the topic - Is it typical to have a delayed period after a miscarriage?