I want to have more, he doesn't - 06/14/12 01:23 AM
I have been with my BF for about 5 or 6 years, we live in a house together and share a dog. He is a good guy but is not a good communicator and has a temper. I am a smart, articulate young woman with a Type A personality and a very nurturing side. We agreed we will not be having kids of our own for various reasons however I would like to foster a baby short-term and he dosen't. His response was actually " I don't want to be bothered with someone elses's kid." I was totally blown away by that comment and am actually disgusted by it!!! I am well aware that he is sometimes selfish buy my gosh.... I feel like fostering a baby has many positives: The gov''t will provide healthcare and dental care for the baby, my large family can provide clothing, etc (hand me downs) and a monthly stipend will help cover diapers and formula. Most importantly, I am doing a good thing for a baby who was put into a bad situation and needs love and care. I understand my BF doesn't want to raise a child but why is he opposed to being a caregiver short-term and helping the helpless? We are 31, responsible, and have a nice home. I think we are blessed and need to give back... Why do you think he is so closed minded and not even bothering to discuss this with me as an adult? How long should I wait to bring this up again? Should I continue researching this and present this again to him with facts and information???