I don't know why this made me so mad - 08/04/08 11:42 PM
A few years ago I breifly reconnected with an old friend from high school. We spoke on the phone a time or two- I complained that I didn't like the job I had at the time and she complained that she had dropped out of community college and was waiting tables. Then one night she called me and upset me. She made some backhanded remarks that I didn't think were nice and to top it all off she told me that she had just broken up with her "loser" boyfriend because his job wasn't good enough. It just so happened that he did the same thing for a living that my SO does. A Tech job that requires plenty of schooling and certainly paid better than WAITRESS. The conversation hurt my feelings and after I got off the phone I didn't talk to her again.
She continued to send me e-mails sometimes. Nothing direct, just forwards.The other day I sent her a funny forward. Today she e-mailed and all it said was : how have u been?
I replied, congratulating her on getting married and gushing a little bit- she had sent me a small picture that I thought might have been from her wedding, so I said - would love to see a wedding pic. I wrote that my only news was that my cousin had just had her THIRD child that she couldn't afford and my parents would be raising that one as well. And I said this:
Although (SO) & I have avoided having one of our own we still find ourselves reading stories etc. The 1st two had endless colic & I did my share of up all night with them. Maybe this one will be easier.
Within seconds I had a response that said she had gotten married two years ago and gave me an EXACT birth date of her new baby. She said her life is "pretty great" and told me the marital status of each of her many siblings, including her youngest sister, her favorite out of the bunch as far as I remembered. She said her sister was "living in sin, waiting tables and 28!" then she made some remark about feeling old.
So the whole thing was all up-beat, but it left me angry and with a bad taste in my mouth. She had no response about my news. She didn't ask if I had gotten married, but managed to rip on her own sister for "living in sin" and also for being a waitress- which is EXACTLY what SHE was doing at that same age. I also kept looking at the DOB of her baby and the vague date of her marriage and couldn't help but think that she had OOPSED herself into a better living arrangement.
It really upset me and I'm not sure why. I spent the rest of the afternoon with these words running round my brain: F*** your way to a better life- how to get ahead without discernable skills or class....
She continued to send me e-mails sometimes. Nothing direct, just forwards.The other day I sent her a funny forward. Today she e-mailed and all it said was : how have u been?
I replied, congratulating her on getting married and gushing a little bit- she had sent me a small picture that I thought might have been from her wedding, so I said - would love to see a wedding pic. I wrote that my only news was that my cousin had just had her THIRD child that she couldn't afford and my parents would be raising that one as well. And I said this:
Although (SO) & I have avoided having one of our own we still find ourselves reading stories etc. The 1st two had endless colic & I did my share of up all night with them. Maybe this one will be easier.
Within seconds I had a response that said she had gotten married two years ago and gave me an EXACT birth date of her new baby. She said her life is "pretty great" and told me the marital status of each of her many siblings, including her youngest sister, her favorite out of the bunch as far as I remembered. She said her sister was "living in sin, waiting tables and 28!" then she made some remark about feeling old.
So the whole thing was all up-beat, but it left me angry and with a bad taste in my mouth. She had no response about my news. She didn't ask if I had gotten married, but managed to rip on her own sister for "living in sin" and also for being a waitress- which is EXACTLY what SHE was doing at that same age. I also kept looking at the DOB of her baby and the vague date of her marriage and couldn't help but think that she had OOPSED herself into a better living arrangement.
It really upset me and I'm not sure why. I spent the rest of the afternoon with these words running round my brain: F*** your way to a better life- how to get ahead without discernable skills or class....