Hi hippy Pie, so true. You hit the nail on the head when talking about the need to be alone. I don't just enjoy it, I recognise a need in my self to have time alone.
I have often wondered if the reason I don't want kids stems from my childhood...
My parents were just with us for a 2 week holiday, and I get on really well with my mum. we were talking of the menopause ( of all things ! ) and she was saying how great it was when it happened because she suffered greatly from pmt. she makes a joke of it these days saying she had it for 10 years or so when we were growing up, so my main impression from my youth was my mum being constantly irritable, depressed, and shouting alot.
I wonder, was it just the pressure of having 2 kids, as well as the hormones ? she always says we were no trouble, but surely if that was the case I would have felt that we were a joy in her life instead of a hindrance ?
Society makes us debate with ourselves why we don't want kids, and I'm sure it wasn't my childhood experiences, but as others have said, I just didn't want them enough.
Or a combination of the two ?
I hate a shouting argument and avoid it at all costs - probably because as a kid I never 'won' an argument, my mum ( being a red head too
) was always fierce and awesome in her anger.
Or does this have nothing to do with it, and I'm just more gentle like my dad ?
And so my mind works on the what if's...
I'm also aware as shes getting older she really would have liked grandkids, but when we were in a restaurant last week, and children were playing and making a noise she's exclaimed ' get those kids out of here !'
It comes back again to knowing what you want in your life and being happy with it - wether it pleases others or not.
sending a big smile to all of you out there