After being married for almost 8 years, I've learned a great deal about men - and the two most enlightening things I've learned:
1. When you ask him what he's thinking about, and he says "Nothing.", he really means nothing. I have a very active mind and a vivid imagination, so I was unable to grasp how someone could just let their mind go blank like that.
2. Men usually say what they mean. If he says he's not bothered, then most likely, he's not.
I've had to explain to my husband that I don't attempt to read minds. Other people's feelings are often a mystery to me - I can never really remember *wanting* to learn how to read people's faces and their emotions. I just never had an interest in it. So, hubby and I are often quite candid with one another - we'll say precisely what we're thinking, what we want, etc. This goes even for intimacy - I tend to be oblivious to flirting, so he has to tell me that he's flirting. I know that might take some of the romance out of it, but that's what works best for us.
When I told my husband before we got married that I didn't want kids, never ever, he was a bit confused at first - he didn't even know it was an option! He's accepted the CF lifestyle with gusto - he even said that the best gift he ever gave to himself was his vasectomy!
I'm 27, at an age where my female friends are getting pregnant left right and center. I too find pregnancy disgusting, so I don't have much to do with that friend during the pregnancy. I'm really not interested in pregnancy problems, nor can I commiserate with her.
I also want to say that I grew up around opinionated, judgmental, and overbearing women in both sides of my extended family. ALL were mothers. Those traits aren't exclusive to the CF, my dear.
A few months ago, a friend of mine, an 82-yr-old woman told me that I was too old to have kids anyway. Just for a recap, I'm 27. Made me laugh inside.
What I suggest is that you make friends with some older people- people in their late 40's+, whose children have already left the nest. I have quite a few adopted mothers now, because of this strategy.
Good luck. Don't beat yourself up about it - this too shall pass.