Maggie, that's quite a journey!
You don't always get to hear the end of the story or beginning, I suppose, depending how you look at it. You're right though, it's the resolve that has the greatest impact. While it's still in "discretion" mode there's so much uncertainty and everything you'll put your energy into will in one fashion or another be a lie unless you pool that energy entirely into yourself. That can be difficult if you love the person who happens to be lieing to you.
Personally, I feel strongly, intuition plays a strong part in knowing something's off. On the other hand, it can be an insight into something we'd rather not know or acknowledge if we do.
I agree as well Universally, Spiritually, attraction to another being...well, predominately I think it just comes down to whether or not a person gets you, makes you smile, laugh and grow in this journey of life