logo

Privacy
This forum uses cookies to ensure smooth navigation from page to page of a thread. If you choose to register and provide your email, that email is solely used to get your password to you and updates on any topics you choose to watch. Nothing else. Ask with any questions!
Channel List
Beauty & Self
Books & Music
Career
Computers
Education
Family
Food & Wine
Health & Fitness
Hobbies & Crafts
Home & Garden
Money
News & Politics
Relationships
Religion & Spirituality
Sports
Travel & Culture
TV & Movies
Safety
We take forum safety very seriously here at BellaOnline. Please be sure to read through our Forum Guidelines. Let us know if you have any questions or comments!
Newest Members
LoreenBarton, amyispretty, Akeem Koss, healthiswealth, LamRoy
58383 Registered Users
Forum Statistics
Forums417
Topics119,528
Posts848,336
Members58,383
Most Online449
Mar 28th, 2018
Top Posters(30 Days)
Angie 59
Advertising
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? #808359
02/27/13 04:25 PM
02/27/13 04:25 PM
Joined: Feb 2013
Posts: 1
L
LGMomma Offline OP
Newbie
LGMomma  Offline OP
Newbie
L
Joined: Feb 2013
Posts: 1
Hi, I am new here, and I am curious about a name choice I have. My dh's grandmother passed away recently, and she was very close with my family/children. We would love to use her name as our baby's (if a girl) due this summer. However, I've heard dh's younger brother say casually he wanted to use the name. Mind you, he is neither in a relationship, or looking for one, he's 27 y/o. Do you think it would be awful to use the name? We don't want to share with anyone until baby is due regardless of name we choose. Or can you really call dibs on a name for all eternity? I feel a little selfish saying first come first serve, but yet, what if he never marries/or has a daughter? What do you think?

Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #808471
02/27/13 06:21 PM
02/27/13 06:21 PM
Joined: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,963
Lori-Dreams Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Lori-Dreams  Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Chipmunk
Joined: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,963
There is no social protocol about baby naming. People and families make up rules such as placing dibs on a name.

It is family courtesy to take into account everyone's wishes but the reality is that families can name babies the same name. Gosh, look at George Foreman who named all of his sons "George" or how we have four Dorothys in our family.

You can't avoid duplicate names, especially with the in-laws. That's how we have three Franks and one Frankie.

I think it is a compliment to have others like your baby's name and give it to their own loved ones. My daughter is dismayed that so many other share her name but I tell her that it is a beloved name. It is far better to share your name with others than have your own particular but hideous name.

Your DH's brother can use the name but grant a very unique middle name to distinguish between your child and his. Besides, I think grandmother would feel doubly blessed if she had two great-grandchildren named after her.

Just to be sure there won't be any family drama come the time you make your announcement, let DH drop a bug in his ear that he thinks it would be great if they BOTH named their children after her. But, neither of you might have a girl so don't make a huge deal out of this.


Lori Phillips
Dreams editor

Bellaonline.com Dreams site
The Dream Collective
Dreams: What are you trying to tell yourself?
Twitter: @tweetdreams4u
and @flutterby03

Marriage editor
Bellaonline Marriage site
Twitter: @BellaMarriage
Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #808473
02/27/13 06:52 PM
02/27/13 06:52 PM
Joined: Jan 2013
Posts: 15,972
Grand-Métis, Quebec, Canada
N
Nancy Roussy Offline
Highest Posting Power Known to Humanity
Nancy Roussy  Offline
Highest Posting Power Known to Humanity
N
Joined: Jan 2013
Posts: 15,972
Grand-Métis, Quebec, Canada
Why are people making a big deal out of things like that? It is your and your partner's baby not anyone else so you both are the people who decides what the name will be! If that man or anyone else is mad at the name you both have picked for your child then they can go to hell because it is not their business. You cannot stop living your life just in case somebody else is bothered or may be bothered by it, especially since almost everyone is offended over anything these days!

Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #808475
02/27/13 06:58 PM
02/27/13 06:58 PM
Joined: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,963
Lori-Dreams Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Lori-Dreams  Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Chipmunk
Joined: Jul 2012
Posts: 1,963
I agree, Nancy, with all of your statements. smile

Aren't there bigger problems in the world to be concerned about?

Small people turn small things into big problems.
Big people turn big problems into small things.

Last edited by Lori-Dreams; 02/27/13 07:00 PM.

Lori Phillips
Dreams editor

Bellaonline.com Dreams site
The Dream Collective
Dreams: What are you trying to tell yourself?
Twitter: @tweetdreams4u
and @flutterby03

Marriage editor
Bellaonline Marriage site
Twitter: @BellaMarriage
Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #808759
02/28/13 01:58 PM
02/28/13 01:58 PM
Joined: Jan 2013
Posts: 15,972
Grand-Métis, Quebec, Canada
N
Nancy Roussy Offline
Highest Posting Power Known to Humanity
Nancy Roussy  Offline
Highest Posting Power Known to Humanity
N
Joined: Jan 2013
Posts: 15,972
Grand-Métis, Quebec, Canada
There sure are bigger problems to be concerned about! This is one of the main reasons why almost nothing gets done, the majority of human beings are focusing on things that are not important while important things are ignored. And most people will apologize when they haven't done anything wrong at all, it's crazy. Just like you see lots of people getting together just to censor or ban something then right where they live they know about a child getting beat every day by his or her parents and these same people just ignore it. It is very frustrating!

Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #854824
02/04/14 10:18 AM
02/04/14 10:18 AM
Joined: Jan 2014
Posts: 21
M
marie4u Offline
Newbie
marie4u  Offline
Newbie
M
Joined: Jan 2014
Posts: 21
elbert dicosta is a good option.

Re: So confused!! Can you have dibs on a baby name? [Re: LGMomma] #854826
02/04/14 11:10 AM
02/04/14 11:10 AM
Joined: Oct 2003
Posts: 8,830
The Netherlands
Susan Helene Kramer Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Susan Helene Kramer  Offline
BellaOnline Editor
Stone Age Human
Joined: Oct 2003
Posts: 8,830
The Netherlands
OMGosh! You wouldn't believe the number of girls named Jane in our family - started because great-grandmas on both sides were named Jane and then it multiplied into the next 2 generations ...


Brand New Posts
Where are you and how is the weather?
by Mona - Astronomy. 06/23/18 08:47 AM
Happy birthday, Royal Observatory Greenwich
by Mona - Astronomy. 06/23/18 08:45 AM
Summer Solstice - St John's Day
by Mona - Astronomy. 06/23/18 08:21 AM
The Natural Beauty Solution Book Revi
by Katherine - Natural Living. 06/23/18 05:46 AM
Articles of clothing you cannot go wrong with
by jodirose. 06/22/18 06:43 PM
Luke Cage - New Season
by Maria - Prime Time TV. 06/22/18 05:16 PM
Hair Color- How do you choose?
by Nancy Roussy. 06/22/18 04:29 PM
What are you looking forward to today?
by Nancy Roussy. 06/22/18 02:46 PM
What will you do today?
by Nancy Roussy. 06/22/18 02:44 PM
What's your Typical Daily Menu?
by Nancy Roussy. 06/22/18 02:36 PM
Forum Activities
Book Clubs
Trivia Contests
Register to Post!
Want to post? For security reasons you need to Register as a Forum Member. It's quick, easy and free!
Who's Online Now
0 registered members (), 107 guests, and 4 spiders.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Sponsor


| About BellaOnline | Privacy Policy | Advertising | Become an Editor |
Website copyright © 2018 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.


Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.6.1.1