It's true that we move through life judging the world around us. We do it mainly to make sense of what we see, select what we will embrace or reject into our lives. We label everything.
But it is important to know the difference between being judgmental and being opinionated. As evolved beings, we should be moving towards tolerance. It's okay to have your own opinions as long as you allow others theirs. But being judgmental, in my opinion, IS a dirty word. Judgment suggests a "holier-than-thou" declaration of right, wrong, good, bad. Your judgments may be fine for your sphere of influence, but that is where it should end.
Who are you or I to pass judgment upon others? Unless we sit as judge or jury member, why does our opinion matter more than others'?
As mothers, we need to judge situations and people to protect our children, of course, but we need to be careful not to pass our prejudices onto our children (although this seems precisely what most parents aim to do!) Can we teach our children to make their own choices and form their own opinions yet recognize the value in relationships with people of diverse backgrounds who may think differently? It will help them move beyond closed-mindedness.
I am not advocating to allow children to expose themselves to potentially harmful influences but here is an example: I do not take drugs, smoke or drink alcohol. But I have learned a lot by connecting with those who struggle with addictions. In fact, I've benefited from friendships with those who are so unlike me entirely. People I once feared or scorned have taught me compassion. It has broadened my understanding of the human race.
People need more understanding rather than judgment. As Mother Teresa said, "If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
Thank you for allowing me my opinion in this matter. It is only my opinion.
