I know the conventional wisdom is to wear high heels with skinny jeans, even for large and lovely women, but I throw wisdom out the door for comfort. I always wear ballet flats with skinny jeans (and I'm a size 14, so no skinny minnie here). It's a good balance because ballet flats do give a smaller silhouette. I do, however, agree with you on the longer tops. They look terrific with skinny jeans.