I am so saddened by women who feel that ending their marriage is the only resolution to their problems with adult stepchildren. I know that their disrespect and unfair treatment can make the situation appear hopeless, but giving ANY individual the power to undermine the promise a couple has made to each other... is just wrong.
I truly hope that these couples will regroup and make a plan that establishes boundaries that will protect their relationship and creates reasonable expectations of their adult children.
One common scenario in these posts is the lack of communication and unity between the step and bio-parent which is an inivitation to manipulation and conflict.