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Lori,

You really know how to put it with such great words.

Caring is exactly it.

It doesn't cost money, though people will spend, you know vacations and such, jewelry, exotic this or profound causes, etc.

But, really, it's just a touch or a hand hold and not expecting anything in return that's the real turn on. No motive I guess, just one Soul that another Soul can see, is appreciated by the one they love

Lori is right, more information is needed in order to help you. Lori is very good at giving advice for married couples.

There are a few more things that may be of help to Lori and others who wish to help you:

- How long have you and your wife been married?

- What are your ages?

- Are you on Viagra or another similar med for ED?

Often, older men go on medications for ED, but the wife is just not ready or willing to be as sexually active as she used to be. Some women reach an age where sex is not the main issue, and a focus on other aspects of life with her companion is just as enjoyable.

She very well may feel pressured and just wants to relax and enjoy life with you without the pressure or expectation of having sex. When a woman knows her man is thinking that their time together is going to always end with sex, that can be a big turn-off. She wants to know that she can be enjoyed and loved for being the person she is, not just a sex partner.

I wish you all the best, Ken, and hope you find the help and advice you need.