I realized years ago that my journey of self discovery was not possible until I became single again and the time for myself. I have many friends and family members and enjoy being with them. I do, however, treasure my time alone, when I have the space I need to meditate and grow spiritually. Often, when one is involved in a relationship, it is not possible to do this at the right times. Relationships can be wonderful, but, so is single life.
Walk in Peace and Harmony. Phyllis Doyle Burns Avatar: Fair Helena by Rackham, Public Domain
I think you are right. I feel that often we forget how important spending time with ourselves can be. Especially when things are hectic, or we are going through a difficult time. It's easy to loose track of ourselves and the time just slips away. Moreover, our personal spiritual growth and well-being, when nurtured, makes us better people within our relationships with others.
I have been single for over a year, and during this time I have grown emotionally. I no longer have to worry about my partner cheating. Or have to endure the ups and downs of a realtionship. After many years of trying the whole "dating scene", I have come to realize it is a waste of time. You leave the situation drained and emotinally scarred. Relationships are great... only when they are heaven sent.
After years of people telling me how to live and what's right for me, how to do things. I'm learning to live my own life, make my own mistakes. I'm learning what makes me happy, and growing on my own. I am living by myself. understanding who I am. what I am. And I'm really beginning to enjoy my life as I make my own mistakes along the way. I'm finding things that I like to do, I learned a lot over the last a couple of years.
I'm with you on that Patti. After my husbands death (second marriage), I've decided Im going to live my life the way I want to live it. I love it so far. I can come and go when I please and not have anyone tell me what time to be home or have anyone to argue with. I do miss my husband very much, we had a strong connection but now its about what I want in life, not what others want me to have. I've been thru enough people telling me what to do. I've become more involved in organizations, I quilt and love it, Im condo hunting for a place for ME. Nothing like having freedom and loving it. I wish you the very best. Hope it all works out for you.
I haven't been on here for a long time. I hope everything works out for you, and wish you the very best also. I may find a guy that would be the right fit for me someday. but it's up to a person to make themselves happy. People sure do get mad when you start putting your foot down, when they're use to running other peoples lives. Of course, they have more issues then you. They don't want to look at their own issues. I'll be trailer hunting, in a couple of months. Good luck with your condo..
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