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I don't think there is enough information to know what would be right for this mother/daughter. I think I would only go along with something like that if the child had some sort of hormonal/oversex problem.
I do agree that telling kids masterbation is natural and shamefree should be a priority.
I don't think kids should be allowed to look at porn. Respect/abuse, the lengths kids will go to be liked, and a whole stream of conversations should take place around porn.
I don't think kids should feel sex, oral sex, internet sex, or playing with sex toys is a natural, free choice for their generation. Sex is never free.
Michelle I think it is a great point to tell our boys that No means No. And I also think kids should learn that sex without respect or love isn't near as much fun. They are handing over deep emotions and (for females) internal body parts, and they need them back in one piece.
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I don't think there is enough information to know what would be right for this mother/daughter. I think I would only go along with something like that if the child had some sort of hormonal/oversex problem.
I do agree that telling kids masterbation is natural and shamefree should be a priority.
I don't think kids should be allowed to look at porn. Respect/abuse, the lengths kids will go to be liked, and a whole stream of conversations should take place around porn.
I don't think kids should feel sex, oral sex, internet sex, or playing with sex toys is a natural, free choice for their generation. Sex is never free.
Michelle I think it is a great point to tell our boys that No means No. And I also think kids should learn that sex without respect or love isn't near as much fun. They are handing over deep emotions and (for females) internal body parts, and they need them back in one piece. A very thoughtful answer.
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You spoke to your son about porn?
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Michelle, you spoke to your son about porn?
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Oh yes! 1st you need to know that my son is on the autism spectrum - Apserger's to be exact; so he has a tendency to get very obsessed with things easier than other people. Add that to the fact that he is going through 15 yr old hormones - and internet porn is just begging for trouble!
We have all sorts of blockers/filters on our computers (and network security is what my husband does), but he was still able to find ways around the blocks. And had figured out how to clear the history. Most porn sites make it easy for kids to do. Now he is only allowed on the internet on my computer (he has no passwords to any of the computers and i have to log him onto mine), and can only be on as long as I or my husband is in the room.
I explained to him that for him to be looking at porn at this age and with his certain mindset (tendency towards OCD)- he was just setting himself up for trouble. Internet porn (particularly) dehumanizes sexual relationships and women in particular. Also porn depicts very unreal expectations of sexual relationships, this is not where I want him learning about how to treat his future girlfriends (or eventually wife)!
I know not everyone agrees with my views on pornography (I'm pretty anti on all of it). But I believe that for any teenager porn is not healthy. Kids need to learn about real relationships - not idealized sexual fantasies that are dreamed up by grown men.
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Oh yes! 1st you need to know that my son is on the autism spectrum - Apserger's to be exact; so he has a tendency to get very obsessed with things easier than other people. Add that to the fact that he is going through 15 yr old hormones - and internet porn is just begging for trouble!
We have all sorts of blockers/filters on our computers (and network security is what my husband does), but he was still able to find ways around the blocks. And had figured out how to clear the history. Most porn sites make it easy for kids to do. Now he is only allowed on the internet on my computer (he has no passwords to any of the computers and i have to log him onto mine), and can only be on as long as I or my husband is in the room.
I explained to him that for him to be looking at porn at this age and with his certain mindset (tendency towards OCD)- he was just setting himself up for trouble. Internet porn (particularly) dehumanizes sexual relationships and women in particular. Also porn depicts very unreal expectations of sexual relationships, this is not where I want him learning about how to treat his future girlfriends (or eventually wife)!
I know not everyone agrees with my views on pornography (I'm pretty anti on all of it). But I believe that for any teenager porn is not healthy. Kids need to learn about real relationships - not idealized sexual fantasies that are dreamed up by grown men. Oh, yes. I have read many posts by teenagers talking about sizes of genitals they saw on porn and then getting worried about their own size. Parental control is must at this age and certain thing may better be not allowed to teenagers.
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Edited by management for TOS violations
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