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There has been a lot of discussion on news shows about Christie Brinkley and her very public divorce from Peter Cook.

Therapists and lawyers are weighing in on the morning news shows about whether or not Ms. Brinkley's insistence on having the divorce proceedings made public is damaging to her children. Her lawyer claims her soon-to-be ex deserves the bad publicity considering what he did and his subsequent actions of paying his lover "hush money."

What is your opinion?

HI,
Well, I'm sure the kids are damaged already by what her husband did. Also about everything that is printed & said about it. Personally I would not want a public trial. But whether the trial is public or not, things will get out & the kids will hear about it. I don't know if Christie Brinkly has a good reason to want the trial made public. Who knows what he said & did to her? Maybe her husband made threats to her & the other woman. I did not read too much about it. It is possible that she is doing this to protect her kids from him. Who knows, maybe he is into some weird stuff.

But you know, public or not, it will be all over the tabloids & everything else. It is really too bad that some people do not really think before they mess around. Since he wanted to play around he should have divorced her 1st. Unfortunatly too many people just try to get away with it.

She might just want to do this for revenge which I can understand. But unless she has a real good reason, I would say, it's no good to make it public. But if it is public then people will see & hear what was actually said & done. I do feel sorry for Christie & the kids. Judy K. Chicago.

Hi

I agree that if he wanted to mess around, he should have left her and started divorce proceedings. I think he is self centered and clearly did not care about how his actions might impact his children. He cared about himself not the kids.

That being said, I do not believe she is innocent. She is on her fourth husband. Just because she is beautiful on the outside does not mean she is beautiful on the inside.

Just because the tabloids reported it does not mean she should have pushed to have it public. The children will someday learn her statements which will have more impact on them than those of the trashy press. A mother that truly had the children's interest as her primarly concern would have never pushed to have it publc. It was fueled soley by a need for revenge which is not in my opinion understandable it is selfish.

In my opinion they deserve each other. I hope there is a lot of money for mental health support for those kids, they will need it.

HI,
I just wanted to add something else. I'm with you Car on some things you posted. I was talking about this with my husband 1 day. She is very beautiful but has no luck with men. So, Some of it is on her too. She might pick a certain type of man over & over again. Or there is something else going on with her. I think that they all need some help. Well, I would have to say that almost all of us had thoughts on revenge at 1 time or another. It is normal to feel that way when you are betrayed. That does not mean people should act on it. But we don't know the whole story. Just what we see & hear in the media.

Well, she did wind up with custody of the kids & her X was payed alot in the settlement. There are also different kinds of revenge. To me they are not all selfish & destructive. A good example is living a very good life & not allowing her X to get to her. But, we are all human. Noone truly knows why someone does something a certain way & others don't. I don't ever recall hearing that she messed around on her X. It is on him that he cheated no matter how she is. Have a nice Sunday! Judy K. Chicago.

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I agree with you that neither party should humiliate their spouse while having an affair and he/she should separate from him/her before becoming involved with someone else. I however do disagree with you and many other women that this gives women carte blanche to do whatever they want to get revenge.

I am proud that I have always taken the high road and my ex-husband has a wonderful relationship with our child. The fact there were issues in our marriage has nothing to do with the fact that he loves his child.

Christie Brinkley had the chance to do what she needed to do and protect her children by keeping the court proceedings closed. No-one can ever convince me that she is innocent or is not as low as her ex-husband. The fact that his child found his porn is disgusting.

As I said earlier the only ones I feel sorry for are the children. I am sure she will also have an issue with husband No. 5. Women like her always do regardless of whether they are beautiful or not. There is also no excuse for her ex-husband and I would hope women would stay far away from him.

Take care

HI,
Well, we really dont' know the whole story, do we? I think you are being rather harsh on her. Yes, protection of the kids should be the 1st priority. But, she might have had a good reason for doing this. Not all Mother's & Father's care about thier kids. Also, her kids did hear all the gossip. They seen stuff too. She might just pick the wrong type of men. She should find out why. But I never seen any info about her cheating on her husbands. He is the 1 who cheated. They probably had problems for a long time.

Not all women or men will divorce right away. Who knows, maybe she was trying to save the marriage & he just did what he wanted. It takes 2 to make a marriage. You can't just blame her. You say "women like her" but you don't really know her. You are making assumptions about her. Again, she was not the 1 cheating on him. He probably was messing around with the nanny while the kids were around.

We are all human & many men & women do things out of revenge. I'm not saying it is the right thing to do. In some cases it may be the best thing to do. Maybe she did it to protect her kids. You don't know. I don't know. I think that you are being too judgemental on her. Not enough on him. He was the 1 who broke trust in the marriage & his wedding vows. This was probably not the 1st time. I don't want to argue with you about this.

It is good that you are proud of yourself for taking the high road & your husband loves your child & is a good, loving father. But everyone is not like that. Ms. Brinkley got custody of the kids & he was paid alot of $. I don't know if he wants to or will see his kids or not.

I also think that alot of women don't like women who are beautiful. I think some women think that they have it made in the shade. It is not always like that. Ms. Brinkley has a right to make her own choices & live with that. I feel sorry for all of them. They all need some type of therapy.

You also told me that me & other women give her carte blanc to take revenge actions. She never asked for my approval to do what she did. I'm not giving anyone any stamp of approval. You dont' have to agree with me. But you seem very harsh if people don't agree with you. I have some news for you, many men take revenge too for different reasons. Also it might not be in a court or in public. There are some men who go as far as to hire someone to kill their spouse or they do it themselves. Some women do this too.

So, women are not the only people who commit revenge actions. I will stick up for Ms.Brinkley for not cheating. I could be wrong, but I never heard of that. It usually takes 2 people to make a marriage or break it. But sometimes 1 person in the marriage keeps doing things, such as cheating etc. Then they pretend to be sorry & keep doing it again. As, I already mentioned, maybe she was trying to save the marriage.

Let's face it we all judge people to a certain extent. But I am proud of myself that I try to see things from all sides. THere are some cases where we have to have harsh reactions. I hope that women will stay away from him too. But in reality that won't happen.

It comes down to this, you did what was best for you. Ms. Brinkley did what is best for her. Not everyone will do things the way that you or I think is the best way. Again, I dont' want to argue with you. You are entitled to your opinion, just as I am. But I dont appreciate you putting me in a category of giving my approval for people to take revenge. People do that every day whether you like it or not. None of us are perfect. I'm sure that everyone who reads these forums have made mistakes & choices that they were not proud of. It does not make them less of a person.

Also at times, revenge can be a good thing. It all depends on the situation & what is done. Sometimes, some people deserve it. In Ms. Brinkley's situation we may never know the whole story. We don't know her personally. But she did what was right for her & maybe her kids at the time. I think that she had a good reason. Maybe it was not all for revenge. Well, I dont' want to keep going on about it.

I do respect your opinion but I disagree with some of it. In a way you sound very harsh about it. It is almost as if you do have it in for Christie B. because she is beautiful & has alot going for her. That does not make her wrong or a bad person. Well, we will have to agree to disagree. Have a good day & night. Judy K. Chicago.