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Do peoples parents bug them about having kids soon? Or are they cool about your choice?

My dad thinks it's weird that I don't want kids. He doesn't bug me about having kids, but he expects me to change my mind and have them eventually. He's in for a big shock 10 years from now [when my biological clock is "supposed" to go on overdrive]! My mom is the complete opposite, which might explain why they divorced. She thinks having children would destroy me and she also thinks I'm not fit to be a mother. My mom knows me much better than my dad, probably because I lived with her and my dad is very ignorant. I love both of them, though, for different reasons.

Not us. Like I said in another thread, I had the big dramatic conversation with my parents long ago, and DH, well, his family thought he was a little odd already being a career military infantryman. He's already got a daughter, and it's not like his name is in any danger of dying out. In fact, the only one who has really seriously bingoed us is his ex, but her ideas about women, marriage, kids, etc, are so different from mine we might as well be from different species. (ex: "You got married? Is she pregnant?" and "You don't want to have kids with her? What's wrong with you/her?")

Bob's family did want him to continue his family line. He's an only son.

I got pregnant with my only child at 19. Once I started living with Bob, when I was 26, there was pressure to have children with him. It seemed that it was my duty in this relationship to create children. So there was pressure on both sides.

i still get that now from my sisters. they ask me when I am going to have some. My grandmother on my fathers side wants me to continue the gonzales name, and I am like.. hey.. i am gay.. it requres a woman, so no not now and possibly not ever. It's not like my PR family is small and the line is going to die.

I'm really lucky that neither my parents nor my inlaws bug us and I think the fact that both our younger brothers (mine and hubby's) are married with kids - a boy and a girl) really helps. HOWEVER I am not sure how things will be when I visit my home country next year as in the relatives. And once as I've mentioned my grandma praised everyone for their kids, my brother for no longer being an alcoholic and drug user and only laughed about my failure! Nevermind that I had (have) a degree and diploma!!

I realize I am lucky - I got off the hook early on, when my younger sister had a child in her twenties.

So means the bases were covered in my mother's eyes. She has a grandkid.

That, and the fact that I have always been a very odd duck, chasing my own drummers, probably explains why my family and family friends don't bingo me.

Right, that and the vasectomy.

My parents are not crazy about kids and all, but they do expect me to marry and have a family. When I tell them that I want a husband but no children, they can't seem to understand how anyone can marry and not want kids. Apparently, they associate sex strictly with reproduction. They assume that if I don't want children, I will not be having sex either. Go figure!

I have actually been asked by my parents if I am a lesbian or have some other problem that they do not know about! Since when did being childfree mean that one is lesbian?

I've been married less than a week and ALREADY people are asking us when were having kids. (!!!)

Granted this is other people not even family. Course we do live in the south.....it may be a southern thing but dang...

Nope, and I thank my brother for providing the grandchildren to the family.

Like Jill said, I've always been odd too, so I think my family has just given up.